Wajib < Wajib

I do not understand how and why Muslims think that one act of worship is more 'Wajib' or 'Fardh' (obligatory)  than another. The reason I cannot fathom this simply due to the fact that i am unsure where and what they base this judgement on. Is it because there are more benefits to one over the other, or is it out of pure ignorance?

E.g. If you do not pray your five daily Fardh prayers and someone finds out, they will automatically assume that you are an awful Muslim and you will go to hell.. HOWEVER, If a girl above 'the age' does not wear Hijaab, or a boy does not keep a beard (both of which are Wajib according to gender) then it is considered OK not to do as the 'she/he is not ready' excuse is used. But we cannot use the same excuse for Salaat (5 daily prayers) or Sawm (fasting). We cannot say that 'I do not fast/pray because I am not ready to' so how is it acceptable to use the same excuse for something else that is also obligatory?

Same way with Haraam (forbidden) acts. Drinking alcohol is Haraam, so is listening to music. So i do not understand how listening to music is considered OK while if you even dreamt of drinking alcohol your parents would probably pack your bags and send you to Pakistan to start life as a farmer.

The situation may be different in your community I am not trying to generalise or even target my own community. Please do not be offended, if you have any concerns please let me know. This is the perspective that my community has on this and I am confused why, someone care to explain these mind-boggling mentalities?

Instant Respect? I Think NOT.

Well Instant respect is what i always expected from guys since i started wearing Hijaab. Today i saw differently.

I was minding my own business on the way home, when 3 guys from my year (that are in a couple of my classes but hardly talk to) were walking behind me. So as normal people do they said hi and engaged in a general conversation. That conversation lead to one of them putting his hand round me and called me beautiful, piff etc.. I fairly quickly disengaged from the situation and walked ahead of them on my way home.

Made me think to be honest. I mean he was joking but surely even jokingly that is no sign of 'instant respect'? I posted a bit of this incident on twitter and I received responses like 'your intention wasn't right' 'you were probably flirting' etc. etc. but I honestly wasn't, if they hadn't said 'hi' I wouldnt have even started talking to them, I barely know them, just seen them around school and stuff. Then I looked on the flip side. I was like if it wasn't my actions that caused this situation then it was obviously their mind-set. its amazing how easy it is for a guy to look beyond the Hijaab on our head, and the modesty of our social etiquette.